If our smile has a positive effect on others when we meet them in person, it will have the same effect if it is only “heard” in our words.
Lately, we have been living with the possibility of long-distance conversation, a possibility that is always at our fingertips. And this form of communication, like any other, requires certain forms of politeness. Smiling, for example.
Why does the phone ring? Obviously, someone wants to hear us because they want to communicate something to us, ultimately wanting to give or receive something. If someone calls us because they want to share something with us, then we can increase that person’s joy if we greet them with an open mind. However, if that person feels distance from us on our end.
We deprive her of that joy. If she called because she needs us, then we need to encourage her even more, she needs to feel the warmth behind our words that radiates from our smile.
For a start, even selfish consideration will suffice, because we know that every action has consequences, and every word we speak elicits an immediate or delayed reaction in others. So, if we want a good harvest, we must be cautious in sowing. And even if it seems forced at first, with time – if we practice – it will become natural, and the outward act will modify the person from within. After all, the goal of every exercise is to master a skill we do not yet possess.
By doing so, we have not strengthened any particular part of ourselves, nor any muscle to become more slim and desirable to others, but we have directly acted upon our soul. We have strengthened our openness to others who, like us, consciously or unconsciously seek happiness and a dignified life. We have strengthened our acceptance of others, and thus understanding. After some time, this inner maturation becomes. It is evident and we no longer have to practice a smile: it happens on its own.
Have we ever thought about the fact that we should smile even when no one is watching? If a person smiles, it is clear that they are satisfied with something, and maybe even happy. Why should our smile only appear after something has previously caused joy in us? Wouldn’t it be possible to induce serenity by consciously invoking a smile, almost compelling our personality to change its state of consciousness and move away from a less harmonious state?
If we smile even when we feel like crying, we practice accepting our fate. Acceptance is important for us to better understand why our life is unfolding this way or that, why something is happening to us that doesn’t happen to others or vice versa. When we accept and understand, then we can discern what we want to become, what possibilities our soul needs and seeks in order to gain knowledge and abilities that actually make us happy. Then we really don’t have to practice a smile – it will come naturally. About myself.