From the age of twenty-eight to thirty-five
We often hear the phrase: “I have set a deadline for myself – thirty years old. By then, I need to achieve a lot: have fun and become serious, enjoy the freedom of life and create a family, live off my parents and find a well-paid job, defend a master’s degree, maybe even a doctorate.”
As if everything ends after the age of thirty, and what we fail to achieve by that deadline will be difficult to accomplish later. As a result, we make numerous major mistakes, accept quick solutions, give rise to a plethora of conflicts and complexes. We want to sit on multiple chairs at the same time, we want to have everything and all at once – and we achieve nothing. Our lives turn into a constant race and rush, days are scheduled to the minute, yet we still don’t have enough time. Similarly, we often allow ourselves the other extreme – routine, boredom, passivity, leading to periodic depression caused by external and internal fatigue.
However, in rare moments when we pause, we realize that happiness can be found in small things. Our other nature is pushed somewhere deep into the subconscious. The soul of romance, poets, artists emerges to the surface, and in those moments, we don’t recognize ourselves. There is only a very strong, inexplicable inner longing.
The soul seeks to truly love and be loved, it seeks purity of the heart and purity of relationships, it seeks adventures, it seeks beauty in all its manifestations. Music, verses, books, nature – all of these become important once again. Sometimes our philosopher’s soul surfaces and we become thirsty for knowledge. Suddenly, we start asking ourselves questions about God, the meaning of life, destiny, and suddenly we realize how narrow our perspective is and how much interesting things we have missed and how much we don’t know. We want to learn, explore, develop our abilities and talents, discover the world and people.
The task of the age from twenty-eight to thirty-five is not to suppress these deep and sincere needs and aspirations of the soul, but to find them, develop them, and strengthen them.
Because in this way, destiny gives us an opportunity. to discover ourselves, find our path, uncover the limitations of our sense of life. It is in this age that it is easiest to realize this and, no matter how strange it may seem, it is in this age that life opportunities allow us to at least accomplish a small part of what we have discovered.
If we miss the opportunity, if our second nature does not receive the necessary nourishment for development, the consequences will be minimal until the age of thirty-five: we will only be left with deep sadness and dissatisfaction with ourselves in our present and future lives. However, in the next life cycle, after the age of thirty-five, they can turn into a deep crisis – the well-known “midlife crisis”.
Opportunities at this stage of life do not fall from the sky, but come with a thorough reexamination of everything that has been up until then, accompanied by quite complex trials.
Everything piles up – on the one hand, many important and complex problems that need to be solved instantly, and all the usual, stereotypical ways of solving them no longer work. valid. On the other hand, fate suddenly sends opportunities that weren’t there before. Each of them has its pros and cons, and we need to make a choice, knowing that it is the only correct and long-term one.
Indeed, the choice we make is always one: either the head or the heart. If we choose a stable, peaceful life without considering the needs of the soul and heart, we condemn ourselves to an empty and meaningless life. If we choose the needs of the soul and heart, we sacrifice much of what would provide us with a secure and peaceful life.
Our choice should be conscious and independent. We need to take responsibility for our decisions and actions and understand for ourselves whether they are correct or not, whether our priorities are wrong. It is not possible to make the right decision without answering two eternally relevant questions: “What doesn’t fulfill me in my life so far and why?” (the criteria being the needs of the soul and heart) and “What is most important to me, why, for what, and for whom do I live?” (the same criteria).
Finding our own path is not easy. It is necessary to arm ourselves with patience and persistence. I want to because we have a long journey of trial and error ahead of us. The most important thing is not to give up prematurely and not to compromise with our own soul, heart, or conscience. Success is always a reward for courage, persistence, faith, patience, and, of course, love.
One way or another, if material and spiritual principles have constantly clashed within a person until this period, at this stage of life, they are already mature enough to definitively and irreversibly choose one over the other. It is not said in vain that all life cycles that follow are a continuation of the cycle from the age of twenty-eight to thirty-five and that what follows largely depends on how we have lived through this crucial period of our lives, what we have discovered in it, and what priorities we have set for ourselves.
From the age of thirty-five to forty-two
In this period, a person experiences the well-known “midlife crisis” or crisis of middle age, which is a natural continuation of the empty previous, crucial stage of life, a sad consequence of all that was experienced within it. missed opportunities.
We start thinking again about what we should have thought about earlier and ask ourselves questions that should have been answered earlier.
Everyone experiences these crises in their own way. However, sooner or later, questions start to haunt the soul: “What is all this for? Is this my life? Which path am I taking? Why do I exist? Why all of this?” A person feels very lonely from within, and sometimes even externally. And above all, the feeling that there is little time left for “real life” and that it needs to be saved “for later” weighs heavily.
The processes that occur during a crisis are only indirectly related to external circumstances. That is why many psychologists agree that such crises are not just age-related, but deeply spiritual.
As C. G. Jung said, in this age, a person once again has the opportunity to hear the voice of their soul, their Being. Both the person and their life need to undergo fundamental changes for that, and all the conditions are there. Spirituality needs to replace rationality, the wisdom of the heart needs to take its place. marry the logic of the mind.
Indeed, the midlife crisis is yet another opportunity for everything to change. If it is successfully overcome and we find the missing links necessary for our lives to take on new meaning, the result can be a deep spiritual rebirth, an expansion of consciousness, a new vision of the world and one’s own role, and the acquisition of individuality. This is confirmed by the experiences of many well-known individuals who, in their forties, have gone through difficult spiritual crises. Similarly, many people in their forties change their family, profession, way of life, and start from scratch.
Unfortunately, it is not uncommon for a person to succeed in sleeping through this opportunity, suffocating the voice of their soul. However, one cannot escape oneself. Sad consequences await those to whom this happens. Such people can become petty, malicious, and distracted old people whose lonely lives will be filled only with illnesses, gossip, and waiting for death.
Even for those who have already found meaning in life and actions that fulfill them, this period is not always easy. finding the way is not simple. It is not enough to find meaning, it is not enough to know where we are going and what we want, now we need to be in harmony with all of that. In this case, the midlife crisis manifests as a painful realization of the mismatch between the nobility and beauty of the chosen actions or directions and one’s actual abilities and possibilities. And once again, the same profound introspection and attempts to become better and act better start, to transcend the boundaries of knowledge and possibilities, to break stereotypes. And again, the same effort to hear the voice of the soul differently, to discover other people and the world around us in a new way.
From the age of forty-two to forty-nine
It is no secret that in this age, relationships with loved ones usually turn into habit, losing their inherent warmth, tenderness, depth, and strength. Every relationship periodically requires reassessment, renewal, and rebirth. This age offers a unique opportunity to do this once and for all or to love one’s loved ones in a new way if they are. survived all these years, our feelings have endured all the trials. And that’s why we need to answer the question again: “What connects us, brings us together, what keeps us together? Habit? Dependence on others? Material gain? Friendship? Love? Responsibility for others? Common activities, aspirations, dreams? Or all of that and something else, something more?”
If we managed to answer the question of what is most important in our lives once and for all in the previous cycle, then at this age, we need to answer once and for all the question: “What is most important in my relationships with loved ones and the world around me?”
This age offers a unique opportunity to rediscover love, its various forms and states, and strengthen the bonds of the heart that connect us to other people.
Married couples, who have known how to go through all the crises together, feel a renewal of feelings and relationships in their mid-forties, not because they suddenly become better, but simply because they stop blaming each other for their own problems.
We are important to others.
In this age, love can become not only a life anchor, but also an inexhaustible source of creative inspiration and strength.
Thanks to the reassurance that we are not simply being used, but that we are needed by others, a multitude of new ideas, ventures, and creative plans can be born within us, which will help many.
Considering the extraordinary possibilities that are revealed to us in this age, it is necessary not only to understand that love belongs to every age, but also that love should never be replaced with substitutes. Therefore, we should not immerse ourselves in the virtual world of series and romance novels, and should not build the illusion that it will replace what has been missed in life. Also – especially in relation to men – we should not think that getting to know a young person, with whom we may seek validation, will automatically “secure” love and make us feel like someone who hasn’t lost physical attractiveness and the potential of youth. Do not try to escape your age, do not convince yourself and others that you are young, which is… In fact, it’s the truth. Mature years possess their own beauty and strength that leave few indifferent.
From forty-nine to fifty-six years
If, during the previous fourteen important years, a person successfully solves the tasks that destiny sets before them, if they stop desperately clinging to physical youth and do not try to regain it at any cost (sometimes making a laughingstock of themselves), if they carry their years with dignity and nobility, then destiny will reward them richly for it. By taking away the youth of the body, it returns the youth of the soul.
And life literally begins anew, becoming much more interesting than ever before. Everyday life is consciously put on the back burner, and all the hidden dreams of youth that seemed unattainable before regain their influence and find their expression in new searches, endeavors, and discoveries.
Often, it is precisely at this age that brilliant ideas, inventions, and works are born, in which all spiritual forces and talents come to full fruition. The creative potentials of an already wise person, accumulated over many years.
Before us is a mature and experienced young man, with fire in his eyes, with interesting ideas and a view of the world, with enthusiasm, joy of life, and dynamism that is enviable. Plato did not prefer this age without reason, and he assigned an important role to people who knew how to take advantage of its opportunities and reach the peak of their spiritual and creative development in his ideal state.
When numerous people of this age, who have found themselves and lived a fulfilling life, were asked if they would like to return to their youth, they categorically and convincingly refused.
All other variants of the passage through the life cycle from the age of forty-nine to fifty-six are, to put it mildly, uninspiring and sometimes have very sad consequences. As a rule, a person escapes to the past, loves to remember how good it was then and how bad it is now, and does nothing to change it. Sometimes he becomes like an aged, inert To the apathetic, lazy, and defiant teenager, sometimes exhausted by life and burdened with all the misery of the world, who blames the state and their own environment for all their troubles, demanding to have everything they once sacrificed returned to them.
From the age of fifty-six to sixty-three
Now, the question that had been lurking in the depths of the subconscious becomes particularly important and terrifying: “What will remain after me? Who will inherit everything I have experienced, understood, and achieved? Who will continue my work, who will nurture the tree I have planted?” Inheritance, transfer of experience, and the continuation of a beloved endeavor become relevant. And this age offers its unique opportunity – to strengthen connections with those whom we can genuinely call like-minded individuals, and even successors.
The autumn of life is like the autumn of the year…
If we do not isolate ourselves and cling desperately to our trivial problems and needs, it is a particularly beautiful, happy, and fulfilling period of life. We find kindred spirits, how many of them we haven’t found by then, or we are getting to know again those who have been by our side all these years. We feel a special unity, strong connections of souls and hearts (that no one can break until death) with everyone who has looked or is looking in the same direction as us, sharing ideas, beliefs, difficulties, joys and sorrows, accomplishing great things.
The life stage from fifty-six to sixty-third year offers the opportunity to find our flock, our spiritual family. This is another happy confirmation that our life has meaning because we deeply and strongly rediscover why and for whom we live and will live, as long as we have the strength.
Therefore, this age reveals a special quality of personality in a person or, if already awakened, it strives to be fully expressed – the quality of a teacher.
A person generously shares their experience, knowledge, love, feeling a deep responsibility for those who come after them, and teaches others primarily through their own example and way of life. This gives special strength: literally out of nowhere Spiritual, mental, and energy resources emerge that a person had never even suspected, and which would never otherwise appear. This gives them a special inner beauty, refinement, and nobility that also radiate from their exterior. People who cannot help but admire them are drawn to them. “What a beautiful person!” they say about them, and these words are much more rarely heard by younger people about themselves.
Caution: in order not to miss the opportunity of this stage of life, we must not limit ourselves to trying to strengthen family ties or deciding who we will leave our hard-earned wealth to – otherwise, we may experience strong and deep disappointment.
All other ways of passing through this life cycle do not bring any joy, and the problems of obvious aging only intensify. Intolerance, stubbornness, explosive emotions, diseases, rigid attitudes, old fears and stereotypes, dogmatism, addiction of all kinds – all of this becomes a major problem.
From sixty-three to seventy years old
Before sinking into winter slumber and n In this spring awakening, nature delights our hearts with the beauty of golden autumn. The age from sixty-three to seventy is the golden autumn of our lives, when we should manifest the best, the most beautiful, the strongest, and the most valuable that we can give, thanks to which we will be forever remembered. This is a kind of result of all the years lived, an evaluation and an indicator of the quality of the path we have traveled. Our physical and mental state, our actions in this stage of life, will depend on these results and this evaluation. The inner satisfaction of the journey completed gives us the opportunity to discover new spiritual and creative potentials, which take the form of a comprehensive final life achievement. Despair caused by the realization that not everything was good, and now nothing can be changed, can become a tremendous brake. This state is very dangerous if a person refuses to understand that it is precisely at the end of life that everything can start anew in a very beautiful way.
Therefore, it is necessary to heed a valuable advice: it is essential to manifest and make the most we should strive to enrich our souls, minds, and hearts, and apply all the accumulated positive experiences. This is extremely important and much-needed in order to dignify our life’s work, if we had one, or to find it if we have lived our whole life meaninglessly – this is a unique opportunity to atone for everything, make up for what we missed, find inner peace, and depart with dignity.
This is also a time of losses – friends, relatives, loved ones are passing away… The time when we could be called at any moment is approaching. It is necessary to gradually prepare for the encounter with eternity and define our attitude towards death. In any case, it is pointless to succumb to fear, horror, denial, or cover up all these feelings with a mask of indifference. The sooner we realize that no one has escaped death, not because death is the end, but because it is a beautiful encounter with eternity and a continuation of existence, the sooner another unique opportunity of this age will unfold before us. At the twilight of life, when time is already heading towards its end, And we are still here, our soul gets the possibility of uncovering new secrets of existence beyond the boundaries of the material world, hidden meanings of life that lie beyond physical forms and senses, logic and intellectual theories, a life that cannot be explained by words but can be experienced with the heart in the antechamber of the encounter with eternity.
Planet Uranus
In astrology, Uranus holds great symbolic significance. It is a mysterious planet of profound spiritual experiences on both collective and individual levels. Uranus simultaneously inspires and calls for the search for a path, meaning, great truths, sublime ideals and dreams, transcending the limits of space and time, new ideas, and creation. It leads humans into the depths of their own souls and towards self-awareness. This journey is not passive but creative and dynamic. By surpassing trials and difficulties, Uranus guides towards discovery, different modes of contemplation, profound changes, and the exploration of new horizons. It helps in seeing the bigger picture, even at the beginning. The journey of life is both a challenge and an inspiration to persistently and patiently overcome all external and internal limitations. Uranus awakens in a person what is most valuable – their individuality.
Youth and old age are two ends of a long road of life. We often hear different people say, “If youth only knew, if old age only could,” but we don’t always agree. Isn’t it too soon to sigh and complain? Why deprive the young of the wonderful opportunity that life offers: to learn, to explore, and to discover the limitless capabilities of their soul and mind over many years? Why deny the elderly the possibility of action and creation simply because of their advanced age? Why did they acquire knowledge and overcome themselves throughout the years if the immense experience they gathered is not needed by anyone and they have no one to pass it on to?
After seventy years
If we have lived a fulfilling life and seized the many opportunities that fate has given us, then after the age of seventy, life truly begins, but from a different perspective. Eko, far beyond the realm of everyday life.
The great German writer J.W. Goethe once said: “Happy is the man who can connect the end of his life with its beginning.” To this, we can only add the words of American psychotherapist Carl Whitaker: “Bernard Shaw said that youth is such a beautiful time in life that it is shameful to waste it in one’s youth.” And I would add here that old age is such a wonderful time that it is a shame to wait for it for so long.
Epilogue
The great life cycle from birth to seventies is divided into two main stages: the ascent and descent (each of which is divided into five seven-year cycles), and the peak, the turning point from one to the other, is the age of thirty-five.
The ascent stage is also called the stage of youth or the spring of life, because all life forces and potentials emerge by the age of thirty-five. Jung calls this the “stage of extroverts”: all of a person’s energy, all their psychological, mental, and creative potentials are directed outward. The main goals that are set up by the age of thirty-five are usually related to solving tasks on a social level: education, marriage, family, material well-being, social status, career, and interpersonal relationships.
The main problem of this period, which often becomes the cause of serious mistakes and failures, is superficiality and haste or, on the contrary, routine, the absence of deep and strong inner reflections that could change a person’s further destiny.
After the age of thirty-five, with the beginning of the descending stage, a person even physiologically gradually changes, and energy, dynamism, endurance, youthful enthusiasm, and passion become weaker and weaker. Many mistakenly think that this is the beginning of internal aging, not realizing that it is a great opportunity for a difficult but radical change in life. From now on, all the strength and development of a person are directed towards the depths of his soul. He must look at himself and the world around him with different eyes, discover what he did not see before, and find true meaning and fulfillment. He understands, and by changing himself accordingly, he builds new, more serious and deeper criteria. This is the task of this stage.
Psychologists do not speak randomly about very difficult mid-life crises and at the same time about the possibility of internal rebirth and renewal. The task facing the individual is not easy: he must express all the mental, creative, and spiritual potentials that have already matured in his inner world and seek embodiment. This concerns all aspects of life: relationships, work, family, creativity, plans, dreams, and aspirations of the soul.
A person gets the opportunity to fulfill all the hidden fantasies of youth, not as he saw them then, but in another, new form, sometimes unexpected, but always more realistic and inspiring to the soul.