Among the numerous mental illnesses of our time, we also witness frequent crises due to indecisiveness and confusion. Many people allow their lives to pass in constant restlessness caused by not knowing what to do and how to achieve the desired results.
Some of them, in order to avoid this emptiness, engage in various activities hoping that they will give meaning to their lives. Thus, work or studies become their saviors from the current state which undoubtedly stems from within themselves. If a person does not know the reason for their actions, every activity will lack value.
We always have to ask why and where to.
Why?
Because we need to know the true usefulness of what we are doing. Anything that aims only to fill a void or alleviate anxiety, and nothing more, will not bring the desired results. Because when the artificially filled period to escape from oneself ends, restlessness and confusion return.
If we believe that we have chosen leaving or profession that does not suit us, we seek something else to correct the mistake; however, after some time, we discover that we are again in the same mental state. We blame those who teach us or society for not offering jobs that we would do – which can sometimes be true – but the blame is almost always on the one who does not know why they are doing something and what they want to achieve.
Why do we do something? Do we want to know more, to be better from within, to improve ourselves, to master a certain area of knowledge so that we can apply it in a specific job, to help others? Or, in the simplest case, do we want to earn money, buy what we need, travel…
Why? This is a question that must not be omitted, but neither should the answer be omitted, provided that it is not “to fill the time”. The purpose of our actions should be practical, applicable, it should have a meaning that can fill the voids and meet the needs of the world and ourselves.
Where to?
When we move somewhere, we need to To have a marked direction, clear and well-traced. It gives meaning to our movement and shows the steps we need to take and the direction we need to travel in order for those steps to lead us to our desired goal. If we don’t have a direction, there is a danger that our actions will become diluted along the way, anywhere and anytime, and that will increase our anxiety because it will confirm that we cannot achieve concrete goals.
One who wonders where he is going also determines the means he needs to reach the goal because knowing the final point of the journey gives him the ability to acquire the appropriate tools.
Excerpt from the book “What do we do with the heart and mind?”